"Some People Leave, and You Never Get Them Back — Not Really"

---

A Guide on How to Stop Missing Someone

After losing contact with someone I used to have a bond with, I felt a certain peace. After months, you get better. That’s what I told myself every day.
You meet new people, you find new interests, you change your haircut — and eventually, you move on.

But we’re human after all. So when we finally feel ready to let someone new understand us, we get that gut-wrenching feeling in our stomach. Because “there are losses we don’t fully heal from — and that’s part of the human experience.”
And we notice how much we change after someone leaves. Even though life doesn’t stop, your heartbeat still increases every time you hear their name.

“Sometimes the loudest heartbreak isn’t from losing someone forever, but from losing them slowly — fading from messages, calls, and memories until they’re only a ghost in your mind.”

How are we supposed to forget someone? To let go? To just… forget?
They say love never leaves anything good, but oh — the feeling of how his heartbeat sounded when I first hugged him.

How do you forget your first kiss? The nervousness in your system?
How do you forget the one boy who showed you Radiohead for the first time?

Or how do you erase the feeling of missing someone to the point where crying isn’t enough — because every inch of you craves the caress of that person?

“It’s the small things that remind us — a song, a scent, a place — and suddenly the person feels near and far all at once.”

In a conversation with one of my closest friends, I told them,

“How will I deal with real heartbreak if I can’t even handle a talking stage leaving me?”
And it kills me because it’s true.
If I throw up each time I think about him…
If I can’t sleep anymore…
How do we deal with missing someone?

---

1. Delete everything

Yes — unfollow them on Instagram. Delete your shared playlist. Erase the photos. Out of sight, out of mind.

But yes, you’ll still stalk them sometimes — just to check if they feel better, if they met someone new, or if they’re as sad and broken as you are.

Still, when you no longer have something physical (or digital) to hold onto, the bond becomes easier to let go of.

Deleting doesn’t mean forgetting or denying the significance of what you shared.
It’s a gentle act of self-care, a boundary you set to protect your peace.
It’s telling yourself: my healing matters more than the pain of nostalgia.

---

2. Cry your heart out

I remember the first night I missed him.
I cried until my bedsheets were wet with tears, until I had a headache that not even acetaminophen could ease.

The next day, I cried while eating, feeling a piece of potato stuck in my throat.
I cried while bathing — and to be more dramatic — with some sad song on my playlist.
And I cried at school, every day of the week.

But when you let all of that salt water out of your system, you feel peace.
You feel calm — even though the reminder of losing them is still there.

Now, I haven’t cried in months.
And it doesn’t matter anymore if he’s not the one wiping my tears.
Why should I cry?

Cry and cry. Until you don’t need to.

---

3. Pray

Believer or non-believer — trust me.
When you pray about it, you feel heard and seen.
Because you allow yourself to open up and tell the whole story.

When he left, I prayed almost every night asking God to bring him back into my life.
Now I pray for his well-being, not for him to come back.
Because you learn: the other person might be healing too.

Prayer can also be an act of forgiveness —
Forgiving yourself for holding on.
Forgiving them for leaving.
Forgiving the silence that still hurts.

It doesn’t erase the loss, but it softens its grip on your heart.

Prayer brings clarity.
Sometimes, when your mind is drowning in questions — Why did they leave? What did I do wrong? — prayer quiets the noise.
It helps you understand.
Even if the answers never come, peace still can.

---

4. Text them

Failing is part of healing. And you’ll fail again and again — until the lesson sinks in.

Texting them can be healing — if you do it with the right intention.
Not to beg. Not to reopen the wound.
Not to force a reply.

But simply to let go of what’s been weighing on your heart.

Maybe it’s:

“Hey, I’ve been thinking about you. I just needed to say that.”
“I’m not expecting a response, but I needed to tell you that I still care.”

Of course, this step isn’t for everyone.
And it’s okay if you never text them.
But if your heart keeps circling the same words —
Sometimes sending them out into the world is the only way to quiet the ache.

And if you hit send? Breathe. Pray again.
And remember: their response doesn’t define your worth.
Your peace is not in their hands.

---

5. Love

Loving someone is not a waste.
Even if you messed up.
Even if they left you.

Love is never something to regret.
Because it’s what humanity needs the most.

So heal. Love.
And don’t let the lover girl — or lover boy — in you die.

People still need your love.
Your kindness. Your spark.
Don’t let anyone erase that.

You will always heal.
And you will always love again — because you deserve it.

Loving again isn’t forgetting.
It’s refusing to let one loss harden your heart.
It’s looking pain in the eye and saying: You don’t get the last word.
It’s choosing to believe that love is still real, still possible, still worth it — even when it once broke you.

After heartbreak, after silence, after losing someone you never thought you’d lose… it’s tempting to close the door.
To say never again.
To protect yourself by feeling less, needing less, hoping less.

But the truth is — you heal by loving again.

---

And finally, the last step is: Missing them.

Yes, sometimes… you still will.
But now you’ll know how to carry it.

---