I can fix him

Why girls get obsessed with the idea of fixing a man that needs a couple of years in therapy? Girl you can't fix him.

In my own experience I will say that this concept is just obsession that led you to a complex situation about changing someone's personality or mindset.

Everyone has a personality that they create over time or that they create it based  in their interests like movies , artists,  songs and fashion.

It's impossible to change someone's personality but girls  cling to the idea of fixing in this case the  concept a man has about  romance. The " I can fix him" syndrome occurs when a woman focuses her energies of fixing anything that she seems to be incorrect with him. 

The syndrome refers to a common trope where a character, often in romantic relationships, believes they can change or "fix" their partner's flaws or problematic behaviors. This mindset can be unrealistic and potentially unhealthy, as it places the burden of change solely on one person

I can fix him syndrome in series and movies:

1. Gilmore girls 

"I love you, you know? And I never thought I’d feel that way again, but I do."

Jess Mariano and rory Gilmore 

In "Gilmore Girls," Rory Gilmore's relationship with Jess Mariano is marked by its challenges. While Rory's influence and caring nature do have a positive impact on Jess, the idea of "fixing" someone in a relationship can be complex.

Rory Gilmore and Jess Mariano experienced an almost instant connection; Rory was the first and only person in Stars Hollow that Jess spoke to with interest and Rory, at first just being nice to him, quickly found his intellect, humor, love of books and charm enticing.

He is unhappy  and disorientated at having been unceremoniously sent to live in Stars Hollow by his irresponsible mother. 

At first rory doesn't like Jess attitude toward everything.

Jess is always direct, no bull with people around him as he grew up with an evasive mother and is no less so with Rory, which both attracts her and pushes her to grow if she wants a relationship with him. When Rory returns from Washington, Jess does not relent on this characteristic and has no time for running after Rory, who has not contacted him at all for three months following their kiss. Rory is full of attitude over the fact that she has to confront Jess about his new girlfriend, and he lets her know how insensitive she's been. At the end rory lose the guy and let him go. After years he returns to show rory a copy of a novel he wrote and we could see the change he has in his character development,But rory was not the one that  contributed to this. Yes she tries to change him by being supportive and caring ,showing unconditional love. Even though jess  didn't care about his future. While rory was always devoted always focused on Harvard , such a sweet girl. She thought that maybe if she show him a new perspective of love then jess will became the ideal boyfriend she always look up to.

Bad news she was sunlight and he was midnight rain, no matter how much rory tries there was no way that she could fix him.

 

2. Gossip Girl

"Three words, eight letters. Say it, and I'm yours."

 Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass

 

The love affair between Chuck and Blair is toxic, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. It panders to the idea that love is meant to make us feel awful all of the time, and while those feelings may be powerful, they don't always constitute a healthy relationship.In fact, they were kind of awful to one another. Chuck and Blair had their cute moments, but it wasn't enough to salvage the fact that they were in a toxic relationship. It's one thing to be part of an enemies to loves trope; it's quite another to be enemies and lovers at the same

You could tell from all the sniping and one-liners and humor that a lot of their stories played out with a palpable sense of passion. Chuck was the bad boy who was reformed by Blair. Him choosing his hotel over her was the last straw for me. That's not love and never will be. I don't see the love with these two. Blair is supposed to be this strong and empowered woman but is weak when it comes to chuck. She had to have some self esteem issues to end up with someone like chuck. 

Blair's support and understanding contribute positively to Chuck's journey, but true change often requires personal introspection and a commitment to self-improvement. In the series, Chuck faces numerous challenges, and Blair's presence can be a positive factor, but it's a nuanced process that involves both individuals evolving over time.

3.Star Wars

"I truly, deeply love you. And before we die, I want you to know." 

Padme and Anakin Skywalker 

Padmé and Anakin's relationship becomes toxic due to factors like secrecy, fear, and Anakin's internal struggles. Anakin's attachment and fear of losing Padmé drive him toward the dark side. His possessiveness and growing power contribute to a strained dynamic. Meanwhile, Padmé, though conflicted, is affected by Anakin's choices. The secrecy surrounding their relationship adds to the toxicity, ultimately leading to tragic consequences for both individuals and the galaxy as a whole.While Padmé deeply cared for Anakin, the notion that she could single-handedly "fix" him is complex. Anakin's turn to the dark side was influenced by a combination of personal fears, external pressures, and manipulation by Darth Sidious. Padmé's love and influence did play a role, but the issues ran deeper.

Addressing Anakin's inner turmoil would have required a more extensive support system, including mentorship, counseling, and a healthier environment. Padmé's influence alone may not have been sufficient to mitigate the complex factors that contributed to Anakin's fall to the dark side.

In reality, individuals need to take responsibility for their own growth and development. Healthy relationships involve mutual respect, communication, and a willingness to evolve together. The idea of "fixing" someone can lead to unmet expectations and disappointment. It's important for both partners to contribute to the relationship's well-being and support each other's personal growth.

Girl, you can't fix him.